British singer Adele recently said this about her three-year old son: “I can’t wait to know who his best friends are going to be, who his girlfriend or his boyfriend is going to be or what movies he likes…Whatever my kid wants to do or be I’ll always support him no matter what.”
Earlier, actress Kate Winslet recounted a strange conversation with her then 7-year old son: “I like the diversity that my children are exposed to every day. I love the way their brains work. Joe [her son] turns to me the other day and says, ‘One day, I will have a girlfriend. But I might have a boyfriend. If I’m gay.’ He’s 7!”
Recently, the newly divorced singer Gewn Stefani said: “I would be blessed with a gay son.” Her three children (all boys) range in age from 2-9.
In addition, many in the “gay” press have celebrated the mere thought that the cross dressing children of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett [their son] and Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie [their daughter] may be “gay” and or transgender; the headlines: “Jada Pinkett Smith Says She Would Support Her Kids If They Came Out As Gay” and “Angelina Jolie Says Daughter Shiloh ‘Wants To Be A Boy…’”
I am endlessly intrigued by the custody case between Madonna and her ex Guy Ritchie; their 15-year old son wants to live with dad; this sad family tragedy is symbolic for the whole “gay” boy drama that takes place in the ordinary everyday home: a boy will only go “gay” if sensing rejection from the father and is subsequently smothered by the mother; in other words, the father is the sole individual who can initially propel a son towards homosexuality, but the mother is the one who will ultimately confirm it; Rocco, Madonna’s only natural son, I think is rejecting (albeit unconsciously) what his mother represents, or, he is rejecting her movement, on his behalf, towards homosexuality; according to a UK celebrity tabloid: in September of 2015, “Madonna gave Rocco a girly makeover and posted a picture of him with his long dyed blonde hair in bunches whilst he appeared to cringe.” Sources around the singer commented that she “treated him [Rocco] more like a trophy than a son.” Soon after that incident, Rocco ran away from his mother and then showed up with his Dad in London; it seems that, having grown up in the intensely “gay” orbit of his mother: constantly surrounded by a cadre of homosexual dancers, managers, and hangers-on, Rocco now favors the rather aggressively masculine character of his father; albeit, some have observed that he was a somewhat inconsistent presence in the boy’s life. But, Madonna wants him back, and claims that his father is overly permissive; yet, the poor boy always looked miserable in photos with his mom and utterly joyous with his dad.
All too often in these complicated families that are crippled with dysfunction, the girls, and sadly, Madonna’s own daughter, Lourdes, is an example, wherein the daughter will inevitably repeat the mistakes of the mother: become prematurely sexual, failing in their relationships with men, becoming angry, bitter and eventually manipulative with their own children; on the other hand, boys in these situations will often reject the female, symbolized by the mother, and instinctively seek out solace with the absent male. Hopefully, for his sake, Rocco got away from his mother in time, although, already began to show some signs of gender non-conformity, for example, snapping a selfie of himself in a bra; although, its highly significant that, soon after joining his father, Rocco shaved his head, marking a break between his mother and her public humiliation and emasculation of him; consequently, with his father, there can be healing; for, although the original loss in the son stem from the father, it can also only be finally healed – with the father.
According to a several studies, a poor relationship with the father and a domineering mother contributes to a later swerve toward homosexuality in the affected son:
“The homosexuals were more attached to mother than to father…more frequently had a poor relationship with their father; and the father was away from home for a long period during childhood and adolescence more for the homosexual group.”
“Psychosocial aspects of homosexuality”
Journal of Medical Ethics, 1980, 6, 130-132
“For men, homosexual marriage was associated with having older mothers, divorced parents, absent fathers, and being the youngest child.”
“Childhood family correlates of heterosexual and homosexual marriages: a national cohort study of two million Danes.”
Frisch M, Hviid A.
Arch Sex Behav. 2006 Oct;35(5):533-47.
“Heterosexual men reported significantly less childhood separation anxiety relative to all other groups. Childhood gender atypicality was significantly positively correlated with childhood separation anxiety among homosexual men…”
“Recalled separation anxiety and gender atypicality in childhood: a study of Canadian heterosexual and homosexual men and women.”
Vanderlaan DP, et al.
Arch Sex Behav. 2011 Dec;40(6):1233-40.